Welcome,
Stu has done a good job answering your questions there.
My 3rd gen is manual but normally auto's all have the same pattern: P R N D 1 2
Likely the 2nd D is an O for overdrive and comes at the end P R N D 1 2 O to show the extra gear available.
For the oil, as Stu says this is personal preference and i must have spent days reading through forums and still haven't come to any conclusion! The oil filler cap, and / or the dipstick (when you remove it, near the level markings) should have the recommended oil weight to use, mine is a 305 tpi so likely the same as yours, and it's 5w30. But that's kind of the tip of the iceberg. That refers to the viscosity of the oil at freezing temp and operating temp. There's a whole other conversation about which manufacturer to go with as they all use different additives, in different amounts etc. I currently use 5w30 Mobil 3000. £29 for 5 litres and sometimes halfords do it for £23.99.
Main beam is on the stalk on 3rd gens, so you just have to have the lights on and then pull the stalk towards yourself. You should hear a click when the circuit it is activated.
A lot of suppliers out there as Stu says, depends really on what you need. You can't beat Rockauto on price, just have to smart with delivery options. Though, as Twistedsanity has pointed out on an earlier thread, you do have a problem when things go wrong as you end up paying to ship something back, which isn't usually cheap especially if it's heavy. Then you have to pay any customs charges for the replacement item if it's over £130. So worth bearing in mind. Rocky (American Technique) is a breaker and rebuilder of 3rd gens and also recently became a supplier of new parts, so he's a really good person to speak to. Also very helpful with advice / working out what you need etc. eBay is a good resource too, most of the suppliers in the UK advertise on there. TopSpeed Automotive carry everything, though a bit pricey. They had a battery, year specific alternator and windscreen in stock so went up there and got it all same day (apart from the glass, that was delivered). US Automotive also have a good inventory, they are based around the Midlands. You've got some options, depends what you need
Always worth posting here in the wanted section too, never know what someone has lying around spare.
HTH!
Ray
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